Posts Tagged ‘sex’

The new state of affairs isn’t the state of the union. It is the state of your personal union, which is the agenda of the day. This is the new scenario; you are together on a part time basis. He has his place, and you have a house full of roommates.

Both of you travel, and are looking for practical solutions for some hot alone time. Your core concern is when will your roommates be taking off. His is when can you spend time at his abode, even though it is miles away from campus or your new job.

The consensus is that this type of living conditions or cohabiting is on the rise. Maintaining a private independent status while exploring life together with a significant other is coming of age, this may warrant a second living facility for both. This new professional market sometimes makes sustainable living together arrangements a juggling act.

Landlords may find an untapped market here; this is a sustainable trend that is buoyed by the professional job market. Serial monogamy seems to be the inspiration behind this new trend. This generation isn’t mainstreaming it and is exploring unique living arrangements.

This is a uniquely enlightened generation who think outside both the casual sex scene and the traditional roles. They chose a whole new adventure in living close to their true natures, while knowing togetherness is important.

Making the love connection is really the name of the dating game. It’s a hands on endeavor to find that special someone. It is more than a date; it is looking ahead for someone to make a difference in your life.

Ways to Make the Connection

There isn’t one formula for success.  There are a few ways that have shown promising results. The thrill of discovery never gets old, innovative ways to finding a good connection abound.  Guys have the pick-up lines, and that pitch usually falls flat.

Women have more subtle ways to show they are interested. Women use appearance to catch someone’s eye. Since men are visual this works. But, appearance goes so far in making a real connection.

A women can be dressed the part, but it’s only the first impression. The physical attraction has to be followed by a mental attraction.

The Way Men Connect

Men are more likely to think about sex, women may be looking for a long term connection.

There was a core finding in a study published in a past issue of Psychology of women Quarterly.  What was found was that men rated their female partner as more sexual than women rated their male partner.

This was especially true if they found her physically attractive. Yes, men did notice the women’s friendly and agreeable personality, but that didn’t affect their ratings of her sexiness. Women on the other hand gave the male high sexual rating, but also gave him high ratings for extroversion, and agreeableness.

The Way Women Connect

The way women connect is somewhat different. Women are nesters, and that is a major difference. Magnetism is always a draw, however women asses a man on many levels.

The path to a women’s heart is center’s around what they regard as important. They are impressed by many things, but aren’t as appearance centered. They depend on their instincts

Heads in the Clouds

Many women and men visualize a relationship before it morphs into one. This isn’t a safe or sound place to be.

This is a place where your vision is clouded, and it makes it hard to take in the whole picture. Many people are in love with love. These individuals don’t want anything to spoil the mood. Even if the match is anything but perfect, the inventory still is being viewed from rose colored glasses.

This is what makes a person stick around too long. The life could be sucked out of a relationship, yet one of the parties can’t let go.

The Winning Way

The winning way to find that special connection is to be conscious of what you want in a partner. Also, be conscious of what you need in a partner. The ultimate judge of what will inspire you to continue exploring the relationship is very personal.

Letting go of unrealistic expectations and becoming flexible opens the door to possibilities. There are fantastic finds that may not fit your profile. Adapting to changing expectations, may make a difference in your life. It may be part of growing up and realizing that what you have been looking for is really contentment and a way to share joy.

Sexsomnia as the name applies is where people initiate some form of sexual activity while asleep. This may be more common than previously thought in those with sleep disorders, according to a new study.

Almost 8% of 832 patients studied at a sleep disorder center reported bouts of sexsomnia. That is having initiated sexual activity with a bed partner while asleep. Also, the behavior was three times more common in men.

Studies

“There have been no previous studies of how frequently sexsomnia occurs,” says Sharon A. Chung, PhD, of the Sleep Research Laboratory in the department of psychiatry at the University Health Network in Toronto, in a news release. “While our finding of 8% of people reporting sexsomnia seems really a high number, it should be stressed that we only studied patients referred to a sleep clinic. So we would expect the numbers to be much lower in the general population.”

Chung says that only four of the 832 patients complained about sexsomnia during consultations with sleep specialists. There may be various reasons for this. Most people do not remember the event. Others may not want to remember the encounter. There also may be a sense of shame in reporting this. Although sexsomnia was found to be more common than expected, most people seem to keep it to themselves.

This is an easy topic to poke fun at, but it isn’t easy on either party, and hard on a long-term relationship. Drinking, smoking, and drug use may play a part in this condition. This is not always the case. However, it is a medical condition that can be managed.

Copulation in the true sense is the act of coupling, joining, and union. That is where there the feeling of joy emanates from.

Coitus

Sexual intercourse or coitus is the human form of copulation. Sexual intercourse may refer to a wider variety of sexual acts than the term coitus.  However, the discussion has to be broader to make sense on a human and cultural level.

It seems that the terms must be discussed on a broader scale. Coupling is a wonderful way to make this look like more than a hit and run excursion. Humans enjoy the sexual experience on many levels, one of course is physical, another is emotional, and lastly it is satisfying to the soul.

It fills our senses, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. It is a form of touching, communicating, and bonding. This could be the highest forms of how humans express both their needs, and joy.

Foreplay

Foreplay is the cement that holds together the act of lovemaking. Without this it can be called a lot of things, but lovemaking is not one of them. Intercourse may be preceded by foreplay which leads to sexual arousal in both partners. The reason this is so important is this is what really makes it both a caring act, and a physically delightful one.

Technically foreplay results in natural lubrication of the vagina, and an erect penis. When an erect penis is inserted into a vagina and one of the partners moves back and forth to stimulate an ejaculation and orgasm, it may be problematic if there wasn’t any foreplay.

In human sexual behavior foreplay is a way of expressing physical intimacy. It may be more intimate than coitus alone. Foreplay allows wide latitudes of behaviors. These include kissing, touching both in general and concentrating on genitals, breasts, and any area the courses sexual arousal,

Physical Intimacy

The connection you make, is more profound that just the act of copulation. Dr. Helen Fisher anthropologist and author said in a light hearty way “Don’t copulate with people you don’t want to fall in love with, because you may just do that.” Testosterone can unleash the love neurotransmitters, and an organism can elevate the attachment hormones.

Dr. Fisher believes romantic love is stronger and more powerful than the need for sex. Most people don’t do away with themselves if they aren’t instantly gratified. No sex is just attributed to a dry spell, but love drives people to do desperate things.

Orgasm

Organism is a pleasure and a release, but it isn’t the complete enchilada. The joy of copulation is that it isn’t a separate entity from all our other senses. It answers at times more than a craving; it answers the call of attachment when it is at its best.

The longing is for more than immediate satisfaction, though it isn’t the focus most times. There is an expectation that this is more than the perceived pulsating genitals.  From an evolutionary view this would make sense, ties that bind are essential for survival.

The joy of copulation is what drives sexual activity in men and women. What goes on during arousal and orgasm happens between the ears, as well as throughout the entire body. This is what drives humanity to the heights of being, and represents the future of mankind.

For seniors sex doesn’t usually happen at the speed of light. Seniors may enjoy it, but they have to work harder to earn it. Sex is not a senior moment, unless you forget what enjoying and experiencing this pleasure is all about.

It is more like a slow mission rather than a tsunami with all the sirens blasting. This is more like sundown patrol where everything is slower.

This slowdown takes years and years to become a reality. Most couples start out soaring, with a capacity for speed, endurance, and recovery. The excitement level is due to both the novelty of this new relationship, and a high energy level.

It is a wonder filled time where newness continues to be the foundation for heightened excitement. The slowing down motion eludes most couples until sex becomes an annual event rather than weekly.

Sex is a team effort and as such may leave one party stranded; this can be an impending danger to a relationship. Most seniors aren’t inoperative, just reluctant to expend energy and resources where there isn’t a strong desire.

Sex Choreographed

Sex for seniors; get it on in your own way. You can be both courageous and outrageous in everyday living, why not in the bedroom, or just about anywhere.  Somehow when you mention sex and seniors you can’t seem to picture the flames, just the embers.

There are a few perks when you are older, and they have value. One is being mature and valuing a relationship on a deeper level, lovebirds can also be snowbirds. There is time for visiting and traveling, and seeking solitude, or excitement. You don’t worry about pregnancy or privacy. You most likely have more privacy than any other time in your life.

There is always time to rediscover the true delight for all your senses. Aloha, sex adjusts to your independent needs, and should be a three letter word spelled fun. You will never regain the type of energy and newness of the sexual experience, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t participate. Sex may be a slightly watered down experience, but it is still a recipe for fun.

Sex choreographed is the best way to explain what can happen with a little planning. You have to kick start the engines, gearing up to a physiological respond to a surge of sexual feelings.  By being resourceful you can eliminate obstacles, and play the passion. Having sex gives seniors not only joy, but a feeling of independence. No one is going to help you with that one.

Transforming anticipation into reality is wonderful recreation. Touching is the start, wandering hands work well. Touching encounters scattered across the day, is a way to rekindle the feelings you need to be aware of your partner. Connection is the common integral ingredient in all foreplay. The next is sight, and that can be easier than you think, vision isn’t always that good. Role playing and some dress up may spice things up.

The real challenge is between the ears, if you can think it you can do it. Romantic ways are what seniors understand the best. They know the ropes and now can use that knowledge in surprising new ways. Confidence and comfort with each other may make sexual encounters enjoyable in a whole new way.