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Sex is the one place where the benefits of an imagination are needed. If ever there was a place a fantasy could be played out it is between the headboard and footboard. This is the place not only to express your desire, but where there are very few limits to imagination.

There are dual players, and each wants to fulfill their needs. At the same time each wants to feel sexier. For this to happen we need to heighten our partner’s pleasure.  It is a place to play it by ear, and also use the tried and true. It doesn’t have to be boring, and by adding some play we enhance the experience.

A new avenue of pleasure enhances the dynamics of the relationship. When couples have a long-established relationship there is an increased need for creating and presenting new ideas. There are serendipitous benefits from using your imagination.

Novelty can get lost when complacency takes hold. Many couples become comfortable with the familiar. Romance can take a nose dive and the sex can become routine. From taking place the same time, in the same location, and in the same way it looses its excitement. Often time it is a hurried exchange done before breakfast, or at night.

There is growing power in new ideas, and new directions. You know what pumps you up, and it may surprise you to find that these exciting additions start a whole new way to show love. Fantasy is a thing you do alone, and yet wish a partner would fulfill it.

Sex helps couples connect, and celebrate each others individuality. Immersing yourself in your secret fantasies has a one dimensional quality unless you enlighten your partner. Heating up the relationship is most couple’s priority. Fantasy land lives in ones imagination, it opens up a world of sweet possibilities. An erotic imagination can bring more pleasure to an already pleasurable experience.

Improving your loving isn’t a guessing game. Men and women need different strokes. Good sex is a learned art, and it takes work. Men visualize, need it now, and get emotional intimacy with it.

Women on the other hand are looking for quality, not quantity. What makes sex a page-turner for women is in the pre-performance work. What enhances sex for women is in the lead in time. While men are ready, set, go people, women need more time.

Women’s Basic Needs

For women play, conversation, and romance is much more titillating than simply a go at it. Women appreciate support. While a man may be turned on by a women dressed in only an apron, a women gets more out of seeing a man doing some chores that help her.

The challenge for both women and men is the issue of both being the receiver and the giver is a sexual relationship. Mastering the art of giving and receiving is one of the issues that emerge in this type of intimacy.

Sex is a manifestation of a harmonic relationship. The ingredients of a good relationship are different for men and women. Women are conscious of sincerity, words spoken, desire, and the nurturing aspect of sex.

Men’s Basic Needs

Men are performance driven. What determines being fulfilled is more solidly based on the physical. They are capable of sabotaging their attempts at getting some loving. The secret of attaining a loving relationship means knowing what the women needs.

Since this is a hard read for men and they may or may not be intuitive lovers, they have a challenge. All techniques for them begin on the physical level, which in turn helps them connect emotionally. By being specific and not mincing words women can help a man connect on all levels.

Men need the physical to get to the emotional.  From getting dates, to getting into bed men need to be fulfilled just like women. The difference is for men the journey is physical first, and than emotional.

The concern for men is sex encompasses more than is realize. They may focus on making love as a physical endeavor, but a man depends on it for both physical and emotional gratification. .

Basics

Men and women win when they pleasure each other on a regular basis. The bottom line doesn’t change; this is not about ordering and receiving, but about giving and receiving.

The new state of affairs isn’t the state of the union. It is the state of your personal union, which is the agenda of the day. This is the new scenario; you are together on a part time basis. He has his place, and you have a house full of roommates.

Both of you travel, and are looking for practical solutions for some hot alone time. Your core concern is when will your roommates be taking off. His is when can you spend time at his abode, even though it is miles away from campus or your new job.

The consensus is that this type of living conditions or cohabiting is on the rise. Maintaining a private independent status while exploring life together with a significant other is coming of age, this may warrant a second living facility for both. This new professional market sometimes makes sustainable living together arrangements a juggling act.

Landlords may find an untapped market here; this is a sustainable trend that is buoyed by the professional job market. Serial monogamy seems to be the inspiration behind this new trend. This generation isn’t mainstreaming it and is exploring unique living arrangements.

This is a uniquely enlightened generation who think outside both the casual sex scene and the traditional roles. They chose a whole new adventure in living close to their true natures, while knowing togetherness is important.

Making the love connection is really the name of the dating game. It’s a hands on endeavor to find that special someone. It is more than a date; it is looking ahead for someone to make a difference in your life.

Ways to Make the Connection

There isn’t one formula for success.  There are a few ways that have shown promising results. The thrill of discovery never gets old, innovative ways to finding a good connection abound.  Guys have the pick-up lines, and that pitch usually falls flat.

Women have more subtle ways to show they are interested. Women use appearance to catch someone’s eye. Since men are visual this works. But, appearance goes so far in making a real connection.

A women can be dressed the part, but it’s only the first impression. The physical attraction has to be followed by a mental attraction.

The Way Men Connect

Men are more likely to think about sex, women may be looking for a long term connection.

There was a core finding in a study published in a past issue of Psychology of women Quarterly.  What was found was that men rated their female partner as more sexual than women rated their male partner.

This was especially true if they found her physically attractive. Yes, men did notice the women’s friendly and agreeable personality, but that didn’t affect their ratings of her sexiness. Women on the other hand gave the male high sexual rating, but also gave him high ratings for extroversion, and agreeableness.

The Way Women Connect

The way women connect is somewhat different. Women are nesters, and that is a major difference. Magnetism is always a draw, however women asses a man on many levels.

The path to a women’s heart is center’s around what they regard as important. They are impressed by many things, but aren’t as appearance centered. They depend on their instincts

Heads in the Clouds

Many women and men visualize a relationship before it morphs into one. This isn’t a safe or sound place to be.

This is a place where your vision is clouded, and it makes it hard to take in the whole picture. Many people are in love with love. These individuals don’t want anything to spoil the mood. Even if the match is anything but perfect, the inventory still is being viewed from rose colored glasses.

This is what makes a person stick around too long. The life could be sucked out of a relationship, yet one of the parties can’t let go.

The Winning Way

The winning way to find that special connection is to be conscious of what you want in a partner. Also, be conscious of what you need in a partner. The ultimate judge of what will inspire you to continue exploring the relationship is very personal.

Letting go of unrealistic expectations and becoming flexible opens the door to possibilities. There are fantastic finds that may not fit your profile. Adapting to changing expectations, may make a difference in your life. It may be part of growing up and realizing that what you have been looking for is really contentment and a way to share joy.