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Confidential true stories abound of why sex sizzles on the high seas. Armed with a few moves and some clever lines help navigate the choppy waters of the world of the single cruises.  Cruise-ship encounters are sweeping single females off their feet, literally.

A behind the scenes look to see how far close quarters can help with close personal encounters. The high seas are tailor-made for some male female escapades. Don’t confuse the length of the cruise with the art of seduction. On board the perks are many for singles.

Going to bed early may mean at least before noon. The ships flawless setting and indulgence calls for a feeling and seeing experience. You aren’t on the clock and exploring everything is part of the adventure.

As the sun descends across the horizon one envisions a night of possibilities. American’s playground is a cruise deck. To seduce and be seductive is part of the ambience of single’s cruise. A ships destination is a lasting adventure with arrivals and departures.

Midnight persuasion could be what defines a single cruise. Seeing things you never seen before include the connections made on ship. In the beginning you embark on this as a romantic dream trip. The state room may heat up, but beyond the fairytale type setting, everyone usually is looking for a new beginning. Ultimately an intimate relationship that has a beginning but not an ending at departure is what a good cruise supplies.

The destination of the moment is beyond the beaches, cities, and on-board activities, but to discover another soul.

I guess that would sum up what some people expect from sex. Ignited passions, that light up the night. These are the things movies are made of. This isn’t always the case with mere mortals. People perform the act stoned, drunk, and while exhausted.

Now it seems that there are times, at the beginning of a relationship when this seems to be the norm. Even in the films fill of passionate embraces, these are usually people who are first discovering their lust for each other. Very few films follow the couple for at least ten years.

It takes effort to keep the match lit, let alone send off sparks until the wee hours of the morning. What most people are looking for at this stage is to connect, enjoy, and get it on. It is still good, but the night sky isn’t usually going to light up.

Then what makes sex so good past the firework stage? The need for it still exists; the attraction is still there, the closeness is probably even better than at the beginning. The expectations are there, but there is some reality that is in place. The sparks are already in place, igniting them a little work.

Sex sells in industrialized countries is an understatement. Sex is the topic du jour in western countries. They are the places where sex is taboo. There is guilt and restrictions on the practice. It is a mysterious dichotomy, for one it is a basic need up there with eating, two it is controlled by outside forces.

Sex is a controlled substance, whereas other ones aren’t a necessity or part of human biology, such as weed or drugs. This makes sex a voyeur pastime. It is a need with a strong drive, and for the most part it is looking for an outlet. For sure there is sex in marriage, but the passions and sexual expression isn’t one that knows fences.

But, the practice and openness shows it is more accepted as a natural occurrence. The laws and rules are many times not in tune with the true nature of man.

The luring ads on TV and in the media keep appearing, because the audience is there. They are attention grabbers and at the same time reach people on a fundamental level. Just because it hasn’t come via a brown wrapper doesn’t mean it is any the less provocative.

People are curious about this topic, even though most people have explored it on a personnel level. They still want to see what other people are up to. The reason being that sex is considered a private act in most western countries. It is known in medical circles, even doctors don’t always find it easy to discuss that topic with patients.

Sex is a powerful need, and it seems to be wrapped in both taboos and mystery. This is what makes it sell on late night TV, ads, billboards, catalogs, and street corners.

The quickie doesn’t necessarily have to be saved for when there is a time crunch. It is one for the road, or just before the in-laws knock on the door. The time element makes quickies more exciting. Quickies are sometimes all you can get in, before the kids get home from school, or the guest arrives,

I guess it’s good also just before the plane lands, and the barbecue is getting hot. Nothing can make you hotter than knowing you are treading in dangerous territory. Why does anyone think zippers were invented. This is spontaneous sex, the kind that gives novelty a whole new meaning.

The element of danger and the possibility of getting caught is a turn on to many people. Sometimes this sex may not be the complete 7 course dinner, but it satisfies. People have succeeded in the elevators, nightclub bathrooms, coat rooms, stairwells, hot tubes, and bosses office.

By now, I would think there isn’t a place that hasn’t been tried by someone. This is a strategy that works for the single and married alike. Since sex is a private act with some taboos attached it lends itself to this. It is something like shoving you mouth with as much cake as possible before anyone sees you. You get the same pleasure without having to wait. Both give you pleasure and fill you up. I think the cake makes you feel more guilt and remorse.

I guess it is because one burns calories, and one adds calories.

The term bad boy comes about, because these are men that stay in perpetual childhood. They stay and act like boys, and have that boyish appeal. It’s like boys will be boys, and we grow to expect that.

Women seek out strong males as mates. Thought they want them to morph into loving husbands and good fathers. It also fits into the masculine image of the strong silent male. Nice guys aren’t always attention grabbers.

Bad boy appeal is evolutionary and it is build into our psyche. It part of survival of the fittest. This is a Mother Nature at work to see that our species procreates. It is part of survival of the fittest.

Men, who are capable of roguish behavior, tend to be confident and dominant. The appeal of the bad boy is he brings a sense of excitement to a relationship. These relationships will usually not be long lived. After a while it gets tiring. It isn’t easy putting up with this type cockiness for long term. Short term it may be quite exciting sexually, romantically, and attraction wise. Sparks may fly for awhile, and then turn to embers. .

Women will always be drawn to the flame; the problem is not getting burnt.

Both women and men are many times looking for love in all the wrong places. For women it is because they idolize love, thinking it is a romantic experience that will answer all their fantasies.  The knight in shining amour who will sweep them off their feet is a known one. In modern times this is seen in romantic gestures, such as the right gifts, words, and deeds. Women want a man that knows his partners needs and wants without having to utter a word. Anyone, in a relationship knows this is a loosing proposition.

The place to look for love for women is in the deeds. Men are doers, action is what they understand. They give by doing, building something by hand, lifting heavy objects for you, or going to work. They are neither mind readers, nor poetry writers. Of course there are exceptions to the rule. Good luck finding them.

Men on the other hand have their fantasy women. They are visual. What they really want is appreciation for their efforts, just like everyone else. Men like independent women it lessens their burden. In today’s world supporting someone on one salary is quite a job. The days of the helpless damsel in distress are over. It is partner time.

Realistic expectations will be having you look for love in the right places.